12th Jul, 2009

  • 11:01 AM
  • Today started with me accidentally snapping my favorite pair of glasses in half.

  • Now I am trying to figure out what to wear to the CoE thing today that DWNY is going.

  • Last night Patty and I saw Public Enemies, which I thought was a film that had no idea what story it wanted to tell and examined too many aspects of the story in deeply curosry ways so that they were disturbing but without viewpoint. That said, the use of music in it was spectacular (what was the guitar track that's also used in the previews? so great!); the performances were all amazing (although I wish the actors had been given more to do, and there's something hilarious about Billy Cruddup playing Hoover); I always forget how much I enjoy that mid-century patrician accent you barely hear anymore that was all over this film; and people, the aesthetic brilliance of the film (oh the suits!) was amazing. So I had fun, and I'm glad we went and romantic dinner afterwards didn't hurt either.

  • What hurt? CoE preview at the movies!

  • vague CoE spoiler here )

  • I can't believe I snapped my fucking glasses in half!
  • Michael Moore, a former resident of Martinsville, VA said he was forced to resign from the Virginia Museum of Natural History because he is gay. The state has no anti-discrimination law, just Governor Tim Kaine's (who is also the DNC chair) 2006 executive order. The courts have ruled that without legislation on the books, Moore has no recourse there. (Wash Blade):

    According to Moore, during his evaluation in October 2006, the museum’s executive director, Tim Gette said, “Michael, there are board members that are aware you are gay, and I do not appreciate you hiding that from me.” Moore has said his evaluation qualified him for a pay increase, but he was still asked to resign the following month.

    Michael Hamar, who’s gay and Moore’s attorney, said he’s “disappointed” in the court’s decision. “It looks as if they’re saying the executive order in 2006 doesn’t basically do anything,” Hamar said.

    A Roanoke Times editorial calls for legislative action to protect employees.

    Through his spokesman, Kaine said the executive order would remain in effect, but as an internal policy. Workers who are fired or discriminated against because of their sexual orientation can seek redress through the state's personnel procedures, said spokesman Gordon Hickey.

    That's less than adequate. The decision by the Martinsville court should be a convincing sign to the General Assembly that protection against such discrimination must be written into Virginia's code. Only a law will offer genuine confidence to Virginia's gay employees that they won't face irrational threats to their employment based on their sexual orientation.

    Notably, trans protections are not called for, so whoever works on writing up a bill needs to get that on the radar.


    Cheney Hid CIA Program From Congress

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 1:30 PM
    This story is BIG and still developing.

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    The CIA withheld information about a secret counterterrorism program from Congress during the Bush administration on direct orders from then-Vice President Dick Cheney, current CIA director Leon Panetta told members of Congress, a knowledgeable source confirmed to CNN.

    Former Vice President Dick Cheney reportedly ordered the CIA to withhold information about counterterrorism.

    The disclosure to the House and Senate intelligence committees about Cheney's involvement by Panetta was first reported in the New York Times. Efforts to contact Cheney for reaction were unsuccessful late Saturday.

    The source who spoke to CNN did not want to be identified by name because the matter is classified, and CIA spokesman Paul Gimigliano declined comment on the report.

    The fact that Panetta recently briefed lawmakers on an unspecified counterterrorism program was first revealed Wednesday, when a letter from seven House Democrats to Panetta was made public.

    More below the fold.
    From NYT:


    The report that Mr. Cheney was behind the decision to conceal the still-unidentified program from Congress deepened the mystery surrounding it, suggesting that the Bush administration had put a high priority on the program and its secrecy.

    Mr. Panetta, who ended the program when he first learned of its existence from subordinates on June 23, briefed the two intelligence committees about it in separate closed sessions the next day.

    The question of how completely the C.I.A. informed Congress about sensitive programs has been hotly disputed by Democrats and Republicans since May, when Speaker Nancy Pelosi accused the agency of failing to reveal in 2002 that it was waterboarding a terrorism suspect, a claim Mr. Panetta rejected.

    The law requires the president to make sure the intelligence committees "are kept fully and currently informed of the intelligence activities of the United States, including any significant anticipated intelligence activity." But the language of the statute, the amended National Security Act of 1947, leaves some leeway for judgment, saying such briefings should be done "to the extent consistent with due regard for the protection from unauthorized disclosure of classified information relating to sensitive intelligence sources and methods or other exceptionally sensitive matters."

    In addition, for covert action programs, a particularly secret category in which the role of the United States is hidden, the law says that briefings can be limited to the so-called Gang of Eight, consisting of the Republican and Democratic leaders of both houses of Congress and of their intelligence committees.

    And for super-duper ultra-covert programs, the Gang of Eight can be eliminated too, huh?

    So what was this "secret program", anyways?

    No one is answering the question, citing the sensitivities that come when discussing classified intelligence matters. But in various conversations with sources on and off the Hill, two general theories have emerged.

    The first is that the CIA was keeping quiet about the use of waterboarding on terrorist suspects. House Speaker Nancy Pelosi has said she was misled by the intelligence agency on that very subject. It's also the story told to the Huffington Post by a source with knowledge of the letter the seven House Democrats penned to CIA chief Leon Panetta, in which they complained about being misled.

    But the dates don't line up. In their letter, the lawmakers note that members of Congress were "misled" for "a number of years, from 2001 to this week." Pelosi, however, contended that the CIA lied to her about the use of harsh interrogation techniques during the fall of 2002.

    Another theory being bandied about concerns an "executive assassination ring" that was allegedly set up and answered to former Vice President Dick Cheney. The New Yorker's Seymour Hersh, building off earlier reporting from the New York Times, dropped news of the possibility that such a ring existed in a March 2009 discussion sponsored by the University of Minnesota.

    Seems the smokescreen may be clearing... and the reveal is very ugly indeed.

    This will bear watching, but watch the Sotomayor hearings and the redirect surrounding her nomination to be loudly amplified by the GOP as to further hide Darth Cheney's evil misdeeds.

    MTA

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 10:01 AM
    I can't wait for my easy papy unlimited metrocard comes in the mail.

    Right now I am using pay per ride metrocards which I bought before they raised the fares from $2 to $2.25. So now I get fewer rides on the metrocard and I am left with a $2 balance.

    I can always add a quarter to make up the fare but I would get a paper transfer and that is not good for the subway and also bus drivers spot the paper transfer and won't let you use it at non tranfer points. When you have the metrocard the transfer is on your card and works at the non-tranfer points.

    This is really important when I have my doctor appointments on Thursday and when I hang out in Fresh Meadows before work. I take one bus to get there and another bus to get home/work and you an tranfer to those buses from the first bus.

    Well.. anyway.. I am glad that they only raised the bus fare 25 cents this time, the last time it was 50 cents, which was 1/3 of the price, from $1.50 to $2. So the fare hike isn't as bad as the last time.

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    Sunday This & That: Open Thread

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 11:00 AM

    Well, Bookworm Bob and I are going to try to make a Sunday Morning and a Wednesday Morning This & That: Open Thread a regular occurance.

    Bookworm BobSo since it's Sunday, here's what Bookworm Bob (my cartoon friend) and I have been reading in the webosphere this weekend:

    San Francisco Chronicle's Bird-flipping passenger off hook for shooting:

    A car passenger who gestures angrily at a passing vehicle can't be held responsible if someone responds with gunfire, a state appeals court has ruled in dismissing a lawsuit that blamed a passenger for provoking a shooting.

    Adam Vue was taking a sport utility vehicle for a test drive on Interstate 80 in Richmond in January 2007 when a car entered the freeway and nearly hit him. He honked his horn and his passenger, auto salesman Gabriel Lobos, threw his hands in the air. According to Vue, Lobos also made an obscene gesture at the other driver.

    Someone in the car fired a shot that hit Vue in the head. The 22-year-old pharmacy technician from Gold River (Sacramento County) was in a coma for six weeks and suffered permanent brain damage and impaired mobility, his lawyer said. Police never found the shooter.

    Vue sued Lobos and his employer, East Bay Mitsubishi of El Cerrito, in Contra Costa County Superior Court, saying the salesman's gestures provoked a violent response that should have been foreseeable...

    So, you're semi-safe to flip-off fellow drivers in California...the danger is to large extent if the driver you flip-off has a gun, and how good a shot that driver is. If (s)he's a bad shot and hits another driver, you can't be sued, but if (s)he's a good shot...eep.

    Feministe's Trial for Lateisha Green's Murder Begins Monday:

    The trial of Dwight DeLee for the murder of Lateisha Green will begin in Syracuse, NY on Monday, July 13.  Teish, who was a trans woman, was murdered at a party in 2008 by a gunman who is said to have made a number of hateful remarks about her gender identity and presentation and perceived sexual orientation.  Her brother was also injured in the attack.  The alleged murderer, DeLee, is being tried for second degree murder, with added hate crime charges.

    I will be following the trial as closely as I can, and if you'd like to as well, the best place to start is the Justice For Teish Facebook page.  Become a member of the group, as they will have regular updates, and be sure to invite your Facebook friends as well, as a means of spreading awareness about the case.

    There will also be a Twitter presence in the courtroom.  Get updates from the Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund by following TLEDF, and get updates from GLAAD by following Andy_Marra. Just this morning, they covered a memorial service that was held for Teish in advance of the trial. You can also follow the hash tag #justiceforteish and use it yourself to forward information to your own Twitter followers.

    A few really well written blogs -- such as Feministe, the glaadBLOG, and Transgriot -- will be following this story. We'll be covering it too, but just so y'all know, there will be other folk giving excellent coverage of this trial, as well as excellent commentary.

    Folks, the Latiesha Green Hate Crime Murder Trial is important.

    Los Angeles Times' His KGB past could get him deported:

    Mikhail Lennikov faces deportation to Russia because Canadian law bars onetime employees of antidemocratic spy agencies. Canadians have rallied to his defense.

    San Diego Union-Tribune's Silent vigil held outside base for slain sailor:

    OCEANSIDE - About 100 people gathered along a busy road in Oceanside last night to pay tribute to Navy Seaman August Provost, who was found shot to death at Camp Pendleton last week.

    People held signs that read, "One is too many," along with flowers and candles during a silent vigil. The names of 100 members of the gay community who have died over the past several years were also read aloud as a bell sounded for each one.

    Provost, 29, was found dead of multiple gunshot wounds about 3:30 a.m. June 30 at his guard post on Camp Pendleton.

    I was there, and interviewed one of the lead organizers of the event. I'll have the video of it up later today, I hope.

    Boston Globe's Zoogoers stunned by news of woes, fate of animals:

    The governor yesterday stood by his decision to slash aid, a move Boston-area zoo officials said could force them to close, and could lead to animal euthanizing.

    Egads.

    Minneapolis Star-Tribune's Cheney reportedly ordered congressional blackout:

    The Central Intelligence Agency withheld information about a secret counterterrorism program from Congress for eight years on direct orders from former Vice President Dick Cheney, the agency's director, Leon Panetta, has told the Senate and House intelligence committees, two people with direct knowledge of the matter said Saturday.

    The report that Cheney was behind the decision to conceal the still-unidentified program from Congress deepened the mystery surrounding it, suggesting that the Bush administration had put a high priority on the program and its secrecy...

    The Bush-Cheney administration sure does appear to truly have been an imperial presidency.

    So...It's an open thread! What are you reading or thinking about today?

    Oh -- and pleeeeease feel free to blogwhore!

    Why Am I Here? Because You Are Here.

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 3:12 AM

    Let's see. I guess I should start off by saying I'm straight. I support GLBTQ civil rights because I want to live in a society where all people are allowed to live with dignity and where they are not forced to hide who they are or whom they love.

    I identify as African American although I'm often mistaken for everything but. I benefit from skin privilege, and I've had other African Americans ask me why I say I'm AA when I "don't have to." ::sigh:: Point being, I could hide.

    I am grateful for the courageous people before me who made it possible for me to not feel compelled to pass like many of my relatives did and continue to do. Many of those courageous people weren't African American, and their support helped the African-American Civil Rights Movement, which continues to this day. (Hellllooo, Philly!) They risked their lives for a cause that they believed in, and some of them even died alonside us.

    I fully support and hope to help advance the GLBTQ Civil Rights Movement. I do not know your experience, and I don't pretend to, but I empathize. I might misspeak, and I hope you'll correct me when I do, but I'm here for my closeted relatives who think they have no voice. We are all related.


    Man Meme

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 2:13 AM
    Ganked from [info]sdmrks10.

    The Game of Tag about your MAN:

    1. Who is your man?


    Chris.

    2. How long have you been together?

    Dating since 2006, married since 2007.

    3. How long did you date?

    A little under a year, and we were best friends before and since.

    4. How old is your man?

    Will be 26 on the 23rd.

    5. Who eats more?

    He does.

    6. Who said "I love you" first?

    He did. I did not see it coming. He said it, just a natural thing, as we were closing a phone conversation, and I was stunned. After we hung up, I sat there awhile, then texted back to him, "I love you too."

    7. Who is taller?

    He is, by almost a foot.

    8. Who sings better?

    Neither!

    9. Who is smarter?

    We're both smart, about different things. I'd say we're about even intelligence-wise.

    10. Whose temper is worse?

    His, and he's a pretty happy-go-lucky guy.

    more )

    This is where I tag everyone with a male significant other. :)

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    dreams :D

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 12:48 AM
     I had a headache Thursday-Friday and that night I had an intense dream. Sorry I might be over-hyping it. But this was the first time I can remember that I had a dream like this. So here it goes: 

    I was riding my bike downhill and I was suppose to make a right turn. But I was going too fast so I just kept on going straight.  It was getting higher so I slowed down.  Once I slowed down I saw a pub, McClares (or something like that) and I recoginzed that it was a gay pub.  I was debating if I should go in or not. I didn't then proceeded to make a U-turn to get going. I went to some crazy mass and I saw Apri walk in and sit a couple of seats behind me. (April is the first girl I kissed. See (post)).  I was thinking if I should sit with her, but I decided to stay put because it was about to start. The mass started to get really weird, and I just remember that the person next to me started to hold both my hands and I felt uncomfortable because I just ate chips and I had chip hands.  So I leave early and I tell April that I'll meet her when she's done.  I met her at her sister's apartment in Pasadenaand we start cooking breakfast. Its a cute place, with white walls and it has a very open layout with white walls, it felt like a beach bungalow almost.  Her sister was wearing a white summer dress.  A bunch of their friends are over also but then they have to get ready for the party bus. So they start undressing and I watch them undress. (This is what I've never experienced in my dream world). As I'm watching, I think, O! I have to look away, or do I? :D. I love the direction my dreams are taking :D 

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    "wait what? I'm confused."

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 12:34 AM
    I don't know how the topic started because I was busy on the phone, but bisexuality comes into the conversation. So after I put the phone down I ask, "wait, what who's bi?"  I'm always curious because I'm only out to 3 of my friends.  And also, I always like talking about.  My friends friend, that I met once is bi (who's a guy). Then my friend said something like, "wait, bi guys don't exist they're just gay." My other friend and I were trying to convince him that it means that he's attracted to both sexes. "wait, what? I'm confused." Then I asked him, then how about bi girls? Then he said, there's no bi girls, or gay girls, they're just straight. He noticed that I was kinda getting mad. I was getting a little mad, but more confused. I didn't know how to explain it to him. That feeling must be the same feeling when they're trying to understand it. haha. Well, I guess this is what this journal is for. 

    book review: "Foxhunt!" by Rich Hanes

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 11:40 PM
    Foxhunt! coverFoxhunt!, Rich Hanes' debut novel (Arkham Bridge Publishing, 2009) is, yes, a furry story. But don't let the anthropomorphic animals scare you away; you'd miss out on an enjoyable read.


    Sebastian Valentino is a veteran of interstellar war, a mercenary who had it all. When he loses his assistant captain and best friend Adrian on a botched infilitration mission, he begins to unravel, mishandling Adrian's sacred funeral rituals and berating his new first officer in front of his crew. Matters grow worse when Sebastian's favored target, weary of his constant attacks, declares a bounty on his head. With Sebastian struggling to survive as an interstellar pariah, and an old enemy with a vendetta in hot pursuit, the Foxhunt! is on.



    Set in a distant, furry future of spaceships, mecha combat, and rock bands, "Foxhunt!" follows Sebastian Valentino, a genetically-engineered humanoid fox, as his life as the captain of the galaxy's top mercenary unit falls apart.

    Taking place in Hanes' "Wildstar Universe," Foxhunt! introduces a number of space-faring civilizations, all based on human-like animals: foxes, wolves, dogs, raccoons, and more. But this is no silly yiff story; the furry creatures here are deadly serious, caught up in a very human (or humanoid) story of loyalty, greed, and revenge.

    Each civilization is fleshed out with a surprising amount of detail that walks the fine line between stereotype and archetype, rarely faltering. Foxes are tricky, canines are ever-loyal, coyotes are the ultimate survivors, and the rare human is able to view the "animals" with a detached objectivity, but none of the characters are slaves to their creature instincts.

    A lot is packed into the 342 pages of Foxhunt!, including space battles, family drama, robot mecha fights, spirituality, and personal introspection, but Hanes mostly manages to avoid the long, clumsy information dumps found in bad sci-fi. A romantic subplot is somewhat skimpy and rushed, but it works to emphasize just how disconnected Captain Valentino is from his own feelings.

    The supporting characters drift in and out -- this is Valentino's story, not theirs -- but they leave their marks on the story and on Sebastian's soul. They're complex enough to avoid being stock characters, and they manage to maintain their own voices -- including a young, precociously gifted child, and that's always a hard trick to pull off right.

    Hanes does a good job of delving into the main character's psyche -- twice, literally setting the scene in Sebastian's head -- and also writes vivid fight scenes. Foxhunt! is a page-turner with a good sense of rhythm, and I'm recommending it to my friends who are science fiction fans as well as those who are furry fans. I'm definitely interested in reading more from Hanes, and watching him develop further as a novelist.

    (Full disclosure: I gave Rich Hanes some early critiques of old drafts of this novel, but I hadn't read the whole thing until today.)

    apartment?

    • 12th Jul, 2009 at 1:34 AM
    Hey,
    I'm transfering in the fall (into studio comp.) and am looking for either an apartment share or someone looking for a roommate. I've been looking, and I can't afford anything by myself, but there are alot of large one bedroom/two bedrooms that are in my price range from westchester down to the bronx.
    I'm pretty easy to get along with. I work almost full time as a waitress so my budget is 600 a month.

    If anyone knows of anything or is interested, just send me an email (kelseyrbyrne@gmail.com) or facebook me.

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    This weekly Saturday column "Ask Professor Foxy" will regularly contain sexually explicit material. This material is likely not safe for work viewing. The title of the column will include the major topic of the post, so please read the topic when deciding whether or not to read the entire column.

    Dear Professor Foxy -

    I'm a 21 year old woman in college, and also madly in love with a man I'd love to spend the rest of my life with. We met 9 months ago and neither of us have looked back since.

    Of course, I'm not writing to you to brag about my fantabulous relationship. The man graduated college and moved away a month ago for his new job. Prior to the move, we had sex frequently, and it was always very satisfying, so during those 8 months I never masturbated. Now that we're apart, I'm back to masturbating a few times a week like I was before we met.

    Here's the thing - while my fantasy life has always been bisexual, for the past month I can only get off to fantasizes about women. I have given thinking about my boyfriend, or even just men in general, a good college try and it does absolutely nothing for me. Consistently, I fantasize about having sex with another woman, and its so incredibly hot to me that I get off in moments. It wasn't like this before the boyfriend - my masturbatory fantasies were pretty much a toss up between guys and girls then, leaning a little more towards men.

    I've never acted any of my same-sex fantasies, because "in real life" I am only interested in relationships with men. But this dramatic shift in my fantasy life is making me worry that maybe I'm more gay than I've thought. I realize that sexuality is a continuum, and I don't think its a huge deal what I "am", but my concern is - if this persists, will my heterosexual sex life still satisfy me? Will one day down the road, I want to have sex with a woman, just to see how it feels? While my boyfriend knows I have bisexual fantasies, he's not down for a non-monogamous relationship, so I wouldn't ask him to have a threesome, and the idea of losing what we have just so I could try out lesbian sex is ridiculous to me. I'm not even entertaining the idea of sleeping with a woman right now... but part of me wonders if maybe I will want to at some point. What else would these fantasies mean?

    Do you think exclusively same-sex fantasies have any big meaning for a woman in a committed straight relationship? Why do you think this started happening right after the man left town?

    Thanks,
    -Me

    Hi Me-
    Thanks for writing in. I think that there are several things going on here. Some or all of which may apply.

    1. Sometimes fantasies are just fantasies. I have an odd one involving the Rock, but he is a Republican and so it can never be. Yet the fantasy continues. We can enjoy something knowing it is only fantasy and it can remain that way.

    2. Your thinking and worrying about this is putting it more on your brain. Your desire to suppress this it makes more forbidden and therefore hotter. Again, my lust for the Rock cannot be fulfilled but when I see him as a gay bodyguard in Be Cool, it comes back again.

    3. Maybe your heteroness is getting satisfied by your boyfriend and this is allowing more space in your fantasy life. Ever been told you can't eat something, doesn't it make you want it more?

    And here is the hardest advice to take: stop worrying about it. Enjoy what your have now. You may one day be not satisfied with your sex life for numerous reasons: new fantasies, attraction to women, an inability to stop fantasizing about the Rock. Why worry about all of these things now? Enjoy where you are in both your solo and shared sex life. Recognize how these sides compliment and bolster each other. Take pleasure in them and enjoy your same-sex masturbation and heterosexual partnered sex.

    Best,
    Professor Foxy

    If you have a question for Professor Foxy, send it to ProfessorFoxyATfeministingDOTcom

    I got my license 10 years ago and can count on one hand how many times I've gotten behind the wheel (love the subway.)

    I am looking for customer-recommended driving teachers in South Brooklyn (a specific name is a bonus.) I'm the type of person who would panic and freeze in a stressful situation, so I need someone with a dual-control car who is also very patient. I got multiple hairy eyeballs from my first instructor.

    I really need pointers on merges and highway driving.

    Zipcar

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 11:11 PM
    I recently signed up for a Zipcar membership, though have yet to use it. I just spent some time reading reviews online before I make my first reservation and am getting a little bit nervous by the negative experiences being shared (mostly regarding the state of the car, the availability and insurance issues). A lot of the reviews are from two or three years ago, when the company was younger, so I'm hoping that experiences have improved. Luckily, Zipcar does have the option of canceling a membership within 30 days of signing up but seeing as I would actually like to use the service within the next week or so, I was hoping I could get a few more recent reviews. Is it worth it, or should I cancel and just use a traditional car rental agency when necessary?

    photo developing

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 10:54 PM
    I hadn't used real film in at least 6 years. But, in cleaning up recently, I just stumbled on an old camera that still had an almost fully shot roll of film in it. And I don't have a clue what's on it so I'd like to get it developed and relieve the mystery.

    The place I used to use wasn't really all that dependable and seemed expensive to boot. I don't even know if they're still open since I don't walk that block so much anymore either.

    So, I'm wondering where people would recomend I take this roll? Ideally in the east 50s or 60s but I'm obviously not completely locked in that chunk of the city....

    Laundry Ettiquette

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 10:12 PM
    I suppose this question may also pertain to laundromats, but it specifically relates to apartment buildings with laundry in the basement, or some other shared laundry situation.

    What is your position in regards to someone taking out your laundry from either the washer or dryer once its done but you are not yet there to retrieve it? This happened to me today as I walked down to transfer my laundry from washer to dryer and I suppose the machine had finished about a minute or two before I arrived and my clothes (mostly underwear) were put into one of the laundry carts. Personally, this makes me uncomfortable-although I do realize that it does happen when you live with other people. But I would never take anyone's belongings out of the machine no matter how long I had to wait. Just curious as to what people think or do in these situations, on either side of the coin.
    The ongoing shenanigans at Pam's House Blend about Fritz and "Bruno" show just how bad this whole "civility" thing is when it's used to try to shut up people talking about, for example, homophobia.

    The irony that Fritz -- who compared trans people to Nazis for using the "cis" terminology -- is on the receiving end now is not lost on me.

    Seriously, pass the popcorn. PHB is like this madhouse trainwreck of multiple privileges and intersectionality desperately trying to pretend the only problem is a lack of civility from trans people.

    Way to go, Pam! Heck of a job, Autumn and Lurleen!

    Update: I forgot to mention it before, but the people bringing out their inner anti-Semites on that thread are really quite disturbing.

    Whether or not you like Sasha Baron Cohen, or think that his portrayals of various groups are wrong, this kind of stuff isn't the way to attack Cohen (who is Jewish):

    I will change my mind if Cohen creates a new character with exaggerated mannerisms, let's call him "Hymie the Hasidic Jew", and takes HIM on tour to Brooklyn and North London.

    WTF?

    This is met with approval by Louise, apparently another one of Pam's baristas, who writes of Cohen, "He's too much of a self-serving coward to even consider it, imo."

    Lovely.

    (Louise is the PHB poster who wrote a so-caled guide to civility, which, I suppose, includes anti-Semitism. And it's not like Louise is some kind of paragon of civility herself.)

    Today Kate and I attended the sneak preview of the  new Dinosaur Trail at the Museum of Life and Science in Durham. You might recall that I  recently blogged about the last remaining dinosaur (R) on the late 1960s-era trail -- a "brontosaurus" -- was vandalized, its head decapitated  and stolen. It was later recovered and there is a campaign to restore it up on  Facebook, "Save Durham's Brontosaurus."

    A couple of weeks ago, Beck Tench, who handles the Twitter account (lifeandscience, #dinotour and #dinotrail) at the Museum of Life and Science, sent out invitations to members, area bloggers and Twitter folks to visit the exhibit to get a peek at this work in  progress. We were encouraged to take photos and video and contribute to the  Museum's Flickr pool. Today's festivities for the new trail were a delight. The  place was packed despite classic NC hot, very humid weather. Some of the absent  dinos had cute cardboard cutouts where the real deal will be set in place by  opening day on July 25.

    I made a little video that includes a slideshow of the dinosaur exhibit. Let  the kid inside out to play...

    Here's the Flikr photo album.

    "The Savage Curtain":

    The aliens then pit Kirk, Spock, Lincoln, and Surak against Green, Kahless, Zora, and Genghis in a fight to the death.
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    Urban Science Adventures

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    Keith Olbermann is an idiot...

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 5:12 PM
    As you know, I'm no fan of the Intelligent Design idiocies and the associated anti-evolutionary thinking. Every child in every classroom infested with those memes is one child fewer that might go on to be a scientist and produce the next great breakthrough in medicine agriculture. To date, not a single meaningful technological advance has been made using intelligent design as the premise. It has been as useful to us as Aristotelian physics.

    So I wasn't surprised when Olbermann chose Arizona State Senator Silvia Allen's little comment, while defending a local uranium mine's lax environmental post-processing policies, "The Earth has been here 6,000 years, long before anyone had environmental laws, and somehow it hasn't been done away with."

    But I was disgusted when Olbermann proceeded to make fun of the fact that Allen's comment about the age of the Earth came in the context of a discussion about uranium mining. Olbermann asserted, "The way we can know the Earth is billions of years old is because of the decay of uranium. Carbon dating!"

    Sigh.

    Someone tell Keith that uranium is only a mediocre dating choice because of its uniformity. It's hard to tell how much uranium a sample started with, therefore it's hard to date. Much better choices are rubidium, potassium, and strontium, all of which have multiple decay products that can be measured in ratio to one another to produce accurate results.

    As for "carbon dating," carbon is an entirely different element from uranium, and is used for the dating of recently dead things, as it is only accurate out to about 50,000 years, and is only good for dating organics. (Living things have a regular flow of carbon in and out as they eat and breath; it's only after fossilization that carbon transference stops and we can reliably date the organism's age from the decay of carbon left.).

    So Keith is an idiot. He should consult with a geek before he goes off, again, with an idiotic rant of that flavor. Apparently, an MSNBC peer, Ed Schultz, made a similar mistake, claiming that the Earth is only a billion years old. It's about 4.5 billion.

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    Henna Penna Tattoo #1

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 7:29 PM
    I got the Henna Penna in the mail yesterday and I tried it out today. I liek this alot better then regular henna, it is easier to manage and dosen't run.

    I put this on my right ankle. The picture is sideways, but it would pretty much look the same right side up so I didn't bother rotating it.

    I think I need to stop doing the lines and dots.

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    Fire

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 3:44 PM
    Last night, while my spell candle was burning out, I was thinking what a neat thing Fire is.

    You know, when I got my, what is equivalent to, a Second Degree, I was Initiated as a Priestess of Fire. I have a very specially Consecrated Magickal item which indicates this.

    I was thinking about brush fires in California, and how incredibly destructive they are, while, at the same time, completely necessary for the natural ecology of the area. I was thinking how the flame on the candle never leaves that which feeds it. And, while it is there, it Lights and Warms the darkest of rooms. Today, I made some incense and put it on the charcoal, then I watched as the fire liberated the molecules in the herbs and made Magick.

    It is very strange that a Fire Priestess never learned to cook, isn't it? It is a wonderful thing, using Fire to create Art which nourishes us. Too bad I will never learn to do that. Truth is, I am actually kind of afraid of fire. I saw a trailer burn down when I was a kid, plus, we had that fire in the bathroom that time. I used to belong to this coven where we would use denatured alcohol to create a fire pot in the South. The HP always wanted me to call South, and it would always freak me the hell out, having that burning pot right behind me. And yet, when I do Magick at my Altar, almost everything I do uses Fire.

    I am very strange like that. I find that I often learn my very best lessons from things that scare me.

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    hrrr

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 6:19 PM
    I just did a draft recording of the Torchwood thing Kali and I wrote last night (when I do pod fic, I do a first recording to test different readings, my speed and to find problem words and phrases -- since seven years of speech therapy hasn't erased all my problems and my tendency to drawl is not always appropriate).

    It's _really_ powerful aloud. It's also a much harder fic to read than I thought it would be, and it works better when I pitch my voice down (which I did instinctively for like a third of it, but I'm realizing need to do for all of it, clearly).

    Hrrrr.

    This is sorta gonna be a pain in the ass, but I also want to knock it out of the park.

    But hey, off to the movies! More of this later, time for a different story for a few hours. (man, I've never so needed a bucket of popcorn in my life).

    Uh oh, the purity of the pool is now  under the federal microscope. Too bad, so sad for the members and board of  The Valley Club as Senator Arlen Specter drops the hammer. (CBS3):

    It looks like a Montgomery County swim club accused of racial discrimination  will be investigated by federal officials.

    Friday evening, Sen. Arlen Specter sent a letter asking the Department of  Justice to investigate the allegations surrounding the Valley Club in Huntingdon  Valley, Pa.

    "If these allegations are true, then there appears to be a violation  of Title II of the Civil Right Act of 1964," Specter wrote to Justice  Officials. "I would appreciate it if you would review this matter, to determine  what action, if any, is warranted by the Civil Rights Division of the Department  of Justice."

    The latest  reason for ejecting the children from the club by the president of the club,  John Duesler, is that all of the little black children couldn't  swim. Does he know this for a fact? (it's not much improvement on the  "complexion" remarkm btw). He said "They turned our club from a safe swim  club into an unsafe swim club because of the sheer number of children in our  shallow section who are basically unable to swim." Of course it was hard to  explain this reaction of parents who are members of VSC to these kids:

    "A couple of the children ran down saying, 'Miss Wright, Miss Wright, they're  up there saying, 'What are those black kids doing  here?"'

    Wright said she went to talk to a group of members at  the top of the hill and heard one woman say she would see to it that the  group, made of up of children in kindergarten through seventh grade, did not  return.

    "Some of the members began pulling their children out of the pool and  were standing around with their arms folded," Wright said. "Only three  members left their children in the pool with us."

     

    I'll grant Dr. Duesler a pass on principle for the moment -- and it's a very  generous grant -- perhaps he personally doesn't have a racist bone in  his body. He apologized, but clearly believes it's all just a  misunderstanding. This is post-racial America after all, it's just a terrible mistake. But does he feel any responsibility to acknowledge racist comments made by club members witnessed by multiple people? Clearly The Valley Club has members that do, in fact, want the club to be free of people of color (or perhaps, to be  generous, have a few token members -- a small enough number to remain  "comfortable" and keep the "contamination" factor acceptable -- to fend off  claims of outright racism)

    It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that the "mistake" here by the swim  club is that its policies opened it to federal scrutiny because it leased out  its facilities to non-members, thus making public accommodation laws apply to  it. You best believe that other private clubs around the country that have their  own unwritten policies about keeping environs snow white are running for cover and rethinking whether to rent out their facilities and get caught by the short  ones.

    Related:
    * I guess I'll just sink to the bottom of the pool
    * 'Complexion' of black camp kids not a problem at new pool
    *  Black kids booted from Philly club's 'whites-only' pool

     


    Old Cash Documentary

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 5:49 PM
    June Carter at prison concert: "I don't know what you're all expecting, since we're all girls..."

    Then, "I have an announcement to make before we start. This is as sexy as I'm gonna get."

    Hahaha

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    Update and Thank you...

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 3:36 PM
    Hey All,
    First of all, thank you to the many people who offered support and advice for my girlfriend and I in regards to the DADT policy and options. She is doing much better and we have the SLDN on our side. My girlfiend also made some phone calls to some friends who are among the "higher ups" and they are working on that end too. (These higher ups also have assured her that her supervior (captian or whatnot) will never be promoted and possibly will be fired... It's apparenlty nice to have friends in power). She may or may not be discharged but she definitely will be honorably discharged if she is, and if she stays, she will change units and should be well taken care of.

    The SLDN has been amazing and honeslty they are the ones that helped put her on the right path. Thank you so very much for the advice... this community has made a major difference in both of our lives. Thank you.

    ~Tera

    Black Cats & Herbs

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 11:18 AM
    I discovered today that I am still not a Crone. Maybe soon though. I hope so, anyway.

    Yesterday I took one of those tests on Facebook, "Which Crazy Writer Are You?" I got Oscar Wilde. That rocks! I LOVE Oscar Wilde, not only as a writer, but as a damn fine fascinating individual. (Also, a tragic one). The thing on the test said something about "You don't give a damn what anyone thinks of you", which is sometimes true, sometimes not. It runs in cycles with me. But, I took Rory out last night, and that little black tom was out there, and, you know, Rory makes all kinds of fuss when he sees him, but that tom just doesn't care. Thus... he got named last night... Oscar the Wild. He thanked me this morning by, totally without warning, leaping into my arms after I fed Uncle. Ok, I told him, I get it. You have been abandoned, too. I'll make sure you have food & water, and when I have some money, I'll take you to the vet, and I will make sure that when I leave here, you aren't just abandoned again. He seemed to like that and jumped down. I just fed him and gave him some water.

    I don't know what it is about me and black cats. I have completely fallen in love with every one that has ever come into my life, even if on a temporary basis.

    Read more... )

    The reason for the lack of information being released by the Navy and the Marine Corps about whether sailor August Provost's murder was a hate crime related to his sexual orientation is because, according to a U.S. Congressman from California, it would raise questions about consequences of DADT and the inability for any gay or lesbian to report harassment without outing themselves. Here is the Navy Times take on the status of the case.

    A sailor remained the top suspect in the June 30 murder of a fellow sailor with Assault Craft Unit 5 at Camp Pendleton, Calif.

    ...Navy officials said they don’t believe the shooting was gang- or terror-related. They also continued to dispute rumors that Provost was killed because he was gay, despite contentions raised by several relatives and gay advocacy groups who claim the sailor had been harassed at the unit because he was open about his homosexuality.

    While Navy officials have denied that the shooting was a hate crime, Rep. Bob Filner, D-Calif., has asked Navy and Marine Corps officials for additional investigations into Provost’s death. Provost “made the selfless and courageous decision to serve his country, regardless of his sexual orientation; he should be treated with honor and respect,” Filner wrote in letters to Defense Secretary Robert Gates; Marine Commandant Gen. James Conway; Col. Nicholas F. Marano, who is Camp Pendleton’s base commander; and Rep. Ike Skelton, D-Mo., who chairs the House Armed Services Committee.

    Filner said he was frustrated with a lack of information from the Navy and the Marine Corps, particularly over the suspicion that Provost’s sexuality might be connected to his death, which would raise questions about consequences of the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy.

    “They don’t want that discussion to take place,” he said.

    There is zero incentive for the Pentagon to admit this was a sexual orientation-related hate crime. I do hope that all of the relevant information comes out, because clearly there is no national security risk if the facts come out. The real risk out there is the one the Pentagon put the country in by discharging qualified gay and lesbian personnel.

    Related:
    * Sheila Jackson-Lee to call for Congressional investigation into the murder of sailor August Provost 
    * Time article mulls connection between slain sailor's murder to queasiness over repealing DADT 
    * Sailor killed at Camp Pendleton may have been target of hate crime 


    Not Happy

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 3:10 PM
    I attempted to record a video but my laptop did not wish to cooperate. The video was slow and skippy, the audio messed up. This did not happen before. I attribute this to the fact that it is heating up more than before which means I'll need that air can for one and then one of those cooling trays. Also, I'll try to cease my smoking around it.

    Alas. I just had strawberries, however, so things are looking up.

    It is very hot in here. This is strange because my room is often cool at the best of times. This is because the window is fucked up and I have proof now: there are plants growing through it. Anyone know how to kill moss?

    So, there is a Linux zombie network...

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 10:33 AM
    As it turns out, there is a Linux zombie network. It's called Psyb0t. It infects cable modems and home routers, which you never turn off, and gives whatever nefarious person running the network the capability to hack into your home network, monitor all traffic going through it, and exploit any passwords you send. Nefarious, stealthy, and evil. There's a reason I run a small, home-based, home-made router with my own monitoring software. A layer of security through defensive obsolescence.

    Almost all home-based routers from Linksys and Netgear are based on an old distro of Linux with a weak password that makes it easy to hack. Sad, but true. Updates are available on Netgear and Linksys's websites, and the latest versions have patched the hole.

    Here's what annoys me: every report I could find on Psyb0t mentions that it's a "Linux zombie network". Yet nobody calls MyDoom, the five year old virus that makes up the current denial-of-service attack, a "Windows zombie network". Why not?

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    Horrors!

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 9:32 AM
    Omaha and I went up to Capitol Hill yesterday to get haircuts and to run her over to the Metro office to get her annual pass renewed. Since the Metro office is near Uwajimaya and Kinokinuya, I decided to run over there and see if I could find my beloved Kyokuto notebooks.

    They don't carry them anymore. I was terribly bummed. They do have another brand, Maruman, which looks very pretty and has some field notebooks with lovely paper, but I decided not to spend any money.

    On the way out, I walked through Uwajimaya looking for a decent brand of horseradish, since the crap they sell at the local grocery store barely burns and simply does not reach my "the hair on the top of my head is seeking refugee status elsewhere" standard of horseradish pain.

    They didn't have anything quite like that. There's a German deli near my house, maybe they have what I'm looking for. In the meantime, though I did see that Uwajimaya sells Baconnaise.

    Baconnaise!

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    As a follow up to yesterday's post concerning the 26 AIDS activists protesting in the Capitol rotunda, some news from Ryan Grim at Huffington Post:

    House Democrats have reversed a decision by President Obama and removed a ban on federal funding for needle-exchange programs that he included in the 2010 budget. Including the ban broke a campaign pledge and the flip-flop set off outrage in the gay community and among HIV/AIDS activists. Twenty-six activists were arrested Thursday in the Capitol protesting the policy.

    "For us this is a major positive development," said Allan Clear of the Harm Reduction Coalition. "We're optimistic it will stay out. We don't think Democrats would do this unless they thought they could keep it out."

    "The fact that Democrats took it out in subcommittee means they're willing to take it all the way," said Bill Piper, director of national affairs for the Drug Policy Alliance.

    Excellent. To be clear, numerous scientific studies worldwide and medical experts agree that Syringe Exchange Programs (SEP) save lives by reducing HIV and Hepatitis C infection via Intravenous Drug Use (IDU). Many state and local governments, such as Nancy Pelosi's home district of San Francisco, already have SEPs in place in their municipalities. San Francisco's doesn't depend on federal funding, but in a time of state budget crises and wedge politics, those programs in many other states go unfunded, leaving the public at higher risk of HIV and Hep C infections. Candidate Obama promised to be on the side of science, and see that those programs stood to be reinstated via a lifting of the federal ban on funding SEPs. Like so many other times, and so many other issues, he backed away from that promise, allowing wedge politics and centrist sentiments to kill a public health policy based on science and common sense.

    AIDS activists noticed Obama's failure to deliver, and they made damn sure everyone else did, too. The protestors got no response from the White House (please, try to contain your shock and surprise). But they sure got attention in Congress. More below the fold, including a call to action.


    Appropriations Committee Chairman David Obey (D-Wisc.) highlighted the reversal of Obama's decision when releasing the budget Friday. Obey is also the chairman of the subcommittee that removed the ban.

    "One key exception that I want to mention concerns needle exchange programs. This bill deletes the prohibition on the use of funds for needle exchange programs," he said. "Scientific studies have documented that needle exchange programs, when implemented as part of a comprehensive prevention strategy, are an effective public health intervention for reducing AIDS/HIV infections and do not promote drug use. The judgment we make in this bill is that it is time to lift this ban and let State and local jurisdictions determine if they want to pursue this approach."

    However, the battle is far from over. As usual, GOP members of the committee are exploiting children for the purposes of playing wedge politics with public health.

    Rep. Jack Kingston (R-Ga.) offered an amendment Thursday that Democrats in the Appropriations Subcommittee on Financial Services and General Government accepted. It bans funding for distribution of syringes "in the District of Columbia within a thousand feet of a public or private daycare center, elementary school, vocational school, secondary school, college, junior college or university or any public swimming pool, park, playground, video arcade or youth center or an event sponsored by any such entity."

    Setting aside whether there is still such a thing as "video arcade," the amendment telegraphs what the GOP strategy is. A Kingston spokesman said that the language of the bill does leave some space in D.C. where a syringe exchange program (SEP) could operate. But it certainly doesn't leave much.

    "This restriction is really designed to shut down" needle exchange, said Clear. "Long-standing and effective SEPs in cities such as New York and San Francisco would have to close down if subjected to arbitrary restrictions similar to the one imposed in Washington D.C.... Congress should not be in the business of local zoning. Many communities with SEPs have already adopted policies addressing location issues and the federal government should not be second-guessing these decisions."

    The amendment only effects funding coming through the specific subcommittee involved and funding through Obey's subcommittee could still go toward needle exchange in the District. But if the GOP succeeds in adding the amendment in the full committee, the lifting of the ban will have been effectively undermined.

    The list of the members of the House Appropriations Committee is here. Please, take a moment, click over, and if your Representative is listed, call his or her office and voice your support for lifting the federal ban on Syringe Exchange Programs without the proposed amendment. These are the members of the Subcommittee on Finance Services and General Government, where the amendment was originally proposed. Those of you who are constituents of these subcommittee members, we ESPECIALLY need you to call and voice your support for rejecting the amendment and lifting the ban. Please, call 202-224-3121, ask to be put through the offices, and make the statement.

    MAJORITY

    Chair: José E. Serrano (NY)
    Debbie Wasserman Schultz (FL)
    Rosa L. DeLauro (CT)
    Chet Edwards (TX)
    Allen Boyd (FL)
    Chaka Fattah (PA)
    Barbara Lee (CA)
    Adam Schiff (CA)
    David R. Obey (WI), Ex Officio

    MINORITY
    Jo Ann Emerson (MO)
    John Abney Culberson (TX)
    Mark Steven Kirk (IL)
    Ander Crenshaw (FL)
    Jerry Lewis (CA), Ex Officio

    So what does this yet-another-White-House-flip-flop mean?

    At the time of Obama's reversal, spokesman Ben LaBolt said that the president left the ban in because he wanted Congress to take the lead and that the president didn't want to fight policy battles in the budget language.

    "We have not removed the ban in our budget proposal because we want to work with Congress and the American public to build support for this change," he said. "We are committed to doing this as part of a National HIV/AIDS strategy and are confident that we can build support for these scientifically-based programs."

    He added, "In recent years, Washington has used the budget process to litigate divisive issues and score political points. This practice, which both sides have engaged in, has limited our ability to tackle our major economic challenges. President Obama decided not to play politics as usual with this budget and while he remains committed to supporting the program he wants to address that through the normal legislative process."

    It means that the lives of people with AIDS and people at higher risk of contracting HIV via IDU are just as disposable to him as LGBT lives. It means publicly reversing damn near every progressive stance he'd taken on policies affecting LGBT and HIV+ lives. It means refusing to acknowledge our presence, our struggles, and the threats to our lives, health, and families. It means more of same, business as usual, pander to the right and refuse to take the lead. That's what it portends, more of the same cowardice we've had shoved down our throats since Inauguration Day. Take note, Mr. President: We are not stupid. Don't lie and tell us that the shit in the sandwich is really dijon mustard. We're not buying it.

    Is this guy EVER going to step outside the 1993 time warp bubble and actually move forward with the progressive agenda on which he campaigned?

    Metro PCS?

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 11:15 AM
    Hey everyone,
    In the fall I'll be a student in Manhattan, so I am, therefore, trying to find the cheapest yet most effective versions of everything. I'm currently on a family plan from AT&T but I'm looking into MetroPCS as my cell phone provider. It's definitely cheap, as far as they advertise. My main concern is the fact that I can use the phone unlimited in the city but not at all once I go home- an hour and a half train ride up the Hudson. That's how limited the coverage is. What do you know about this company? I think that their TravelTalk option is roaming and would solve my problem, but is it even worth it? Help is greatly greatly greatly appreciated.

    Thanks!!

    11th Jul, 2009

    • 4:05 PM
    Hi all
    So I've read your posts here for a while now and thought I should
    write an introductory post of my own. Well, I'm 21, bisexual
    obviously, and kind of hating it right now.

    So here's the story. There was highschool. Start of highschool :
    thought I was totally straight. By the end of highschool : didn't know
    what the hell I was. Start of college : thought I was a lesbian.
    Middle of college, ie now : definitely bisexual.

    The situation.. )

    God I hate bisexuality today.(I don't really..and I'm not blaming my situation on anyone else, I'm just really frustrated)

    Anyone had similar experiences? Any advice?

    11th Jul, 2009

    • 4:02 PM
    Hi all
    So I've read your posts here for a while now and thought I should
    write an introductory post of my own. Well, I'm 21, bisexual
    obviously, and kind of hating it right now.

    So here's the story. There was highschool. Start of highschool :
    thought I was totally straight. By the end of highschool : didn't know
    what the hell I was. Start of college : thought I was a lesbian.
    Middle of college, ie now : definitely bisexual.

    The situation.. )

    God I hate bisexuality today. (I don't really..and I'm not blaming my situation on anyone else, I'm just really frustrated)

    Anyone had similar experiences? Any advice?

    11th Jul, 2009

    • 4:00 PM
    Hi all
    So I've read your posts here for a while now and thought I should
    write an introductory post of my own. Well, I'm 21, bisexual
    obviously, and kind of hating it right now.

    So here's the story. There was highschool. Start of highschool :
    thought I was totally straight. By the end of highschool : didn't know
    what the hell I was. Start of college : thought I was a lesbian.
    Middle of college, ie now : definitely bisexual.

    The situation.. )

    God I hate bisexuality today.(I don't really..and I'm not blaming my situation on anyone else, I'm just really frustrated)

    Anyone had similar experiences? Any advice?

    sundries

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 10:12 AM
  • Unlike after Day 4, things do look better in the morning after Day 5, but possibly only because there's no new info to absorb, I can finally just sit with this.

    Coming at you, hopefully tonight: an audio version of the story Kali and I posted last night amd a post Golden Age fic from me.

    If you have reaction stuff re: Torchwood you particularly want me to see, you need to point me to it, as I'm feeling overwhelmed by everyone's emotions and no longer feel like I can click on every link, at least not for a few days.

    Yes, I'll be at the DWNY thing on Sunday. I want to see other people react in real time. I want to put myself through at least some parts of it again and lord, I want to do it with a proper drink in my hand.

    I've not gotten dressed yet, because I'm afraid I'm going to go into my closet, with all my dress shirts lined up in a neat little row and my coat and my suit all wedged in there (it's NYC, we have no closet space and everything gets wedged together) and burst into tears.

    ALso people, wow, I've never seen anything like this whole crazy experience. Anyone know what the overnight numbers were for days 4 and 5?

  • Meanwhile, today I have things like work, and the farmer's market and tending to plants and going to see Public Enemies with Patty.
  • I am not Bruno

    • 11th Jul, 2009 at 3:32 AM
    STATEMENT FROM INCOMING GLAAD PRESIDENT JARRETT BARRIOS ON BR?NO

    New York, NY, July 10, 2009 - The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD) today issued the following statement from incoming President Jarrett Barrios in response to the film "Br?no," which opens in movie theatres nationwide today.

    "In many parts of the United States, lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people live life in harm's way. We are among the most frequently targeted for hate crimes-including physical attacks, verbal assaults and destruction of our property. In particular, LGBT youth experience bullying and violence in school and social settings--harassment that contributes to lower self-respect, depression and increased incidence of suicide.

    Into this context steps the movie "Br?no," an 80-some-minute series of sketches apparently intended to skewer these homophobic attitudes-and get some laughs along the way. Clearly, the filmmakers wanted to use satire to highlight and challenge homophobia. But their film also reinforces troubling attitudes about gay people in ways that run counter to the intentions of the filmmakers.

    The movie repeatedly builds entire scenes around stock stereotypes and situations that make gay people and families the butt of crude jokes. I can't help but think of all the teenage kids already getting bullied, beat up and ridiculed for being--or for being thought to be--gay.. For these kids, this movie will give their tormentors one more word in the anti-gay lexicon of slurs: Bruno.

    Instead of challenging stereotypes, it reinforces them for many of the those who voted to take away the freedom to marry from loving, committed gay and lesbian couples in California. Many states have gone even further-Arkansans went to the polls and effectively eliminated the ability of gay people to adopt or foster children in that state. In a cruel twist, "Br?no," some of which was actually shot in Arkansas, includes a scene where the title character shows a talk-show audience photos of sexual activity occurring in the presence of an infant child. Can this help the gay families across the country who continue to be reduced to political punching bags at the ballot box?

    It's unfortunate that "Br?no" ultimately misses the mark, particularly when there are still far too few positive images of gay people in major studio films. Some members of our community will not be offended by this film. Others, like those of us at GLAAD, find it frustrating and discouraging to be confronted with a movie that wants to increase America's discomfort with homophobia, but which for much of America, seems likely to decrease its comfort with gay people."

    I just went to get my mail a few minutes ago and overheard the college kids who live next door talking about me as I came up the stairs. My name is pretty rare. So when I hear somebody say it, I can usually bet they're not talking about another person named Fritz.

    College Kid #1: "...he kind of reminds me of Fritz."

    College Kid #2: (Laughing) "Yeah, maybe we should start calling him Bruno."

    College Kid #1: (With accent) "Ya! How do you protect yourself from a man with a dildo?"

    Needless to say, I was stunned. These are seemingly nice young men. They have been very polite and friendly since I moved in a couple of months ago. When I stepped onto the landing where they could see me, their laughter stopped cold. It appeared that their girlfriends were not amused by the conversation. One of them turned quickly and walked through the open door of their apartment. I just went inside my apartment without saying a word.

    So there you have it. Thanks to Sasha Baron Cohen, people now have just one word they can use to slur both my sexual orientation and my ethnic heritage -- Bruno. Blond hair? Germanic? Gay? Yep. Must be a Bruno. (The Bruno character is supposed to be Austrian.)

    I don't recall ever being called "faggot" to my face. And, I seriously doubt that these young men would engage in that kind of behavior. This is just one of those unfortunate cases when you hear what people are saying about you behind your back.

    I don't speak with an accent. I am a third-generation American. I just happen to have a name that identifies me as being of German heritage -- an unusual name that many people make fun of anyway.

    Now, I guess I'm going to have to deal with being identified as the gay stereotype presented in this Bruno movie. Frankly, I never saw that coming. I simply thought that the film would present a generic stereotype that could negatively impact all gay men.

    I don't know much about the movie. I don't know what the dildo reference is all about and I am afraid to find out. (Please don't tell me Bruno chases after young college guys.)

    I guess it doesn't really matter that I don't dress flamboyantly and giggle like a schoolgirl. Some people see me as a deviant anyway. I may as well put on bright yellow lederhosen and act like a big queen.

    It is going to take me a few days to get over this. Thank you, Sasha Baron Cohen for making my life just a little more difficult. I guess I should be grateful that Cohen didn't actually give his character the name Fritz -- perhaps that would have been too much of a stereotype.


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